It may not be what you think.
Everyone has heard of gratitude. But how many of us have taken the time to consider both its meaning and purpose in our lives?
As a therapist, I often hear clients say things like, “I mean, I’m grateful for [fill in the blank], but...” And after hearing this time and again, I began to see the ways in which our “gratitude diet” has become yet another self recrimination for our own humanness.
So, this is where we get confused about it all. Just accept it already.
If you've found yourself stuck in negative thinking, I’m sure you’ve tried to think more positively. I’m also sure at least one friend, loved one, or maybe even your therapist, has advised you to do the same. But, it seems no matter how hard you try, you just can’t get your thinking to switch gears. If this sounds like you, or you are simply curious enough to read on, I want to talk to you about how to break through that barrier.
First, here comes your dose of validation. All humans have negative thoughts in their head about themselves, about others, about situations and circumstances. This is normal. It is also a mental prison with very thick bars!
So what can you do to free yourself all Shawshank style?! I thought you’d never ask.