Written by: Melena Postolowski, MA
Helping Children Navigate Big Feelings in a time of Quarantine
Spending some extra time with your children lately? With schools closed and daycares restricted in addition to many parents working from home, family time is a 24/7 endeavor. This can be an opportunity to reconnect and spending quality time with one another. This can also be a time when stress is heightened, feelings are big and patience is low.
We're not officially out of toilet paper here at my home, but we are a few mere potty breaks and blown noses away from it. And, it gets me to thinking about this hoarding toilet paper mentality and how it has permeated our society. It's not that I can't see the need for toilet paper when you are unsure if you may get sick or not be able to safely leave your home for an undetermined amount of time, so much is it that I simply refuse to live with a scarcity mentality anymore. I've officially decided that there is no need to live like I "won't have" if I don't "take for myself".
"I regret it when I suppress my feelings too long and they burst forth in ways that are distorted or attacking or hurtful."
So it turns out I’m a therapist who wants to talk about your feelings. I know that makes me a walking, talking stereotype, but I’ve made peace with that. Another thing I’ve made peace with is the full spectrum of our emotional life.
You see, as humans, we tend to relish in our positive feelings and tend to avoid the negative ones. Although this may work for a short time, continuing to avoid your less favorable feels can have dire consequences.
Let’s consider a quick example.